Showing posts with label birthchoices. Show all posts
Showing posts with label birthchoices. Show all posts

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Birth choices

What is a valid birth choice?




February 18th was a day we had in our calenders for the past 2 weeks. We were going to Ballarat to meet our PM Kevin Rudd. We didn't know where exactly but this would be good. My kids skipped school in the hope they could speak to Rudd about choices.  My daughter was quite upset that she was unable to speak to the Premier when he visited the school last week. Now she is starting to think politicians really don't don't want to hear from you. Rudd was a no show. He was in Ballarat, but I felt he was avoiding us.
Rallies occurred in 15 locations in Australia.



I was asked what I thought of this rally in comparison to past rallies. Calmer, more relaxed.


It has been my understanding that these rallies are for saving homebirth with a midwife. This is fine as I support this for women who so choose. I have felt it is about savng the jobs of midwives which is great as we need true birth experts rather than surgeons in birth.
I have never felt it was about birth choices til yesterday. There were mostly consumer voices which I value but not really about homebirth which may not be a clear choice in a few months.
Is freebirth a valid birth choice? Many people do not think so. Yet how many times does it happen unplanned? I was an unplanned freebirth. I know people who have such quick labours, they just don't make it to the hospital. My labours have been fast so I believe its in my best interest and that of my baby's health to plan for an unassisted birth. Is that not wise? I hear of women who have their midwives arrive after the birth at home. I assume babies arrive quicker at home because the environment is better, mother is calmer, less restrictions and interventions.
I do not want strangers at my births any more. I have been there and I did not need it or appreciate it. You can argue that an independant midwife is different to a random hospital midwife, that you have gotten to know them in a short 6 months or so, but I cannnot be sure. It seems to be risky to me. I am fearful of having a stranger enter my home while I am vulnerable and possible harm me (and in turn, my baby) in my home. I respect that people feel differently but I weigh up my options and do what is best for me.

 

Look, a rare family  photo. Taken by a midwife we met and we later joked we would hire her cos she was lovely but then maybe just to be naughty and break the law. :/ This was probably the most social and relaxed rally I have been to. I met another homebirther who inspired me with her own freebirth when I was pregnant with J. I gave my email to 2 midwives whom we spoke to for a while after most people had left. My husband spoke to a few men that were there (he also did speak to a homebirth Dad at the Orgasmic Birth screening on the weekend and I think its helpful to have that understanding). I am still shy and reserved but I feel I am getting to know these faces, it would be great in helping us to homeschool I reckon. Again, Av made friends - how does he do that? I have never tried to "socialise" him and yet he has no issues (and his siblings too) like I seem to. My daughter talked to nearly everyone who talked to us. I don't think people expect that.

Monday, November 09, 2009

My Birth, My Choice

 Just a few things on the latest in regards to the amendments that will affect homebirth and therefore birth choices in Australia.

Greens-rally-in-support-of-midwives

Amendment controls women

Doctors-to-be-in-charge-of-midwives-homebirthing-and-of-course-women



My husband, the 2 youngest boys and I supported the rally which took place in Werribee at Julia Gillard's MP office. We are in this video at about 40 seconds.



It was a good turn out on a rather warm day. I am feeling quite bitter and let down about the Goverment's lack of understanding of what this will mean for women and society. I am concerned for my daughter in particular, she deserves to choose for herself.




Every woman, every choice

Monday, November 02, 2009

4 Years





4 years ago, I had my third baby. I had wanted to 'accidently' have him ( I didn't know he would be a boy ) at home in the shower. I didn't. I went to hospital and breathed him out hoping I wouldn't tear. I had been kicked out of the birthing centre for borderline low iron levels and was considered high risk. This meant I was monitored/ watched and I did my best to tune out the world. I still tore as he came into the world but my recovery was better despite having a drip and catheter inserted post partum.
It was then that I decided I didn't need the interference and my next child would be born at home ( and he was).



My daughter's birth would have been all that much better if I was left alone to birth her. I still feel traumatised at how I felt being watched during my first son's labour. I found it very difficult to overcome and this being the year of birth trauma awareness it is something I want to work through.
I feel I have been on a journey and so I do not regret what I have experienced as difficult as it has been. I think it has given me passion to listen and trust my instinct. There is nothing more important.


So today my boy is 4.
 
A wonderful boy he is. He still likes to climb and play, have cuddles and chat. His vocabulary has improved and he has such a way with words. Unfortunately his health isn't the best though he takes it in his stride. Asthma sucks.
So today I wish my son a very happy and healthy birthday with many more to come.

Thursday, September 17, 2009

My Body, My Baby, Our Safety

 
  
Just been playing with the header and making banners. Not completely happy with them so I will get more magnificent ideas in time. I am sure! Or I will leave that up to other more tech savvy and talented with their wonderous blogs.
I like the photos though. My awesome 4 and their gorgeous smiles which make me think things are good in our lives right now, that even though I make mistakes, I am doing alright as a mother.
I have survived this year - ie. the year after J's birth and no PND or depression to speak of. I didn't think it possible. I do attribute this to his birth or more to the point, taking responsibility for my body, my baby, our safety. It was safe for me because I chose it knowing what was needed. What isn't safe is being devoid of choice, of being disrespected. 
Which brings me to this grab of videos from the Canberra Rally. Nothing special to most but they are from my view. Rain, babies and passionate people.

Friday, September 11, 2009

Mother of all rallies

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Tuesday, September 08, 2009

The Rally for birth choices for Australian women


















Its raining! It didn't damper my passion for birth choices.


We wasted time in getting umbrellas so didn't get to the pre rally ceremony in time. We were fortunate to get a park close to the rally.

'Mother of all Rallies' Parliament House, Canberra

September 7 2009

START 11.30am Sharp

11.30 MC Tracy Bartram: Welcome/Intro (5 Mins)

11.35 Justine Caines, Secretary Homebirth Australia

Consumer Perspective

11.40 Liz Wilkes President - Australian Private

Midwives Association

11.45 Peter Dutton, Shadow Health Minister (TBC)

Ian McFarlane - Member for Groom - Conf

Andrew Laming Member for Bowman - Conf

Sophie Mirabella, Member for Indi (TBC)

12.05 Pat Brodie - Australian College of Midwives President

12.10 Senator Rachel Siewert - Australian Greens (Conf)

12.15 Senator Gary Humphries - Liberal Party (Conf)

12.20 Lindy Lyons Indigenous woman with Midwife Anne Smith

12.25 Dr Sarah Buckley - GP, author and homebirth consumer

12.30 Jo Hunter HBA Convenor, Midwifery Student

12.35 Lisa Metcalfe, President Maternity Coalition (Consumer

perspective)

12.40 Robyn Thompson, Senior Homebirth Midwife

12.45 Tracy Bartram - wrap up

ENTERTAINMENT

12.50 Amber Moore - Song to Nicola Roxon

Zushi/ dance piece

Maryen Cairns - The Homebirth Song

Sam Fletcher singing

1.30 Justine Caines/Jo Hunter Draw raffle and close __________________



I am sure it differed from what this list says though I didn't hear too much of what was said. What's important to note is that its my choice not the government's or the dr's or my husband's.

Maree Wilson